Thursday, February 26, 2009
time better wasted.....
it was an afternoon coffee date... a "get to know each other over a cuppa something". now, he wasn't immediately the kind of guy i'm attracted to. he was older, straight, and seemed rather vanilla, but he did come across in initial e-mails as very intelligent (i'm a sucker for that) and talented in his field. given that he was quite travelled and seemed a complex, interesting person, i thought i'd give it a try...
well , to sum up...in a response to a question i asked, he replied, "i'll keep my answer brief as it's dull for a person to drone on and on about himself".....and then for the next three hours, proceeded to tell me about his life, his work, his past, his family, his hopes, his aversion to vancouver (devoid of culture in his view) .... (notice a pattern?)...and to be completley truthful, he has had an interesting life, but it was all about him. and since i refuse to fight for conversation space, i let him drone on and on.... coming to understand his particular brand of pomposity.....(mixed with a tendency to do tasteless imitations of people's accents - a big yuck in my opinion).
definitely no sparks to be had (he invited me back to his place, and i declined, obviously).
the icing on the tasteless cake?....an e-mail from him (in response to mine thanking him for the coffee - yes, i'm that kind of girl)..."you are a lovely woman, but i don't think there is any boyfriend/girlfriend potential".....!
i actually laughed out loud...i mean, it was funny... and i wondered where he got the idea that's what i wanted, then realized it was nothing i'd said or done; it was just a part of his arrogance/pomposity to assume it.
anyhow, lessons learned? pay more attention to my first instincts.....and re-appraise my inclination to be polite after a boring date....
lush
well , to sum up...in a response to a question i asked, he replied, "i'll keep my answer brief as it's dull for a person to drone on and on about himself".....and then for the next three hours, proceeded to tell me about his life, his work, his past, his family, his hopes, his aversion to vancouver (devoid of culture in his view) .... (notice a pattern?)...and to be completley truthful, he has had an interesting life, but it was all about him. and since i refuse to fight for conversation space, i let him drone on and on.... coming to understand his particular brand of pomposity.....(mixed with a tendency to do tasteless imitations of people's accents - a big yuck in my opinion).
definitely no sparks to be had (he invited me back to his place, and i declined, obviously).
the icing on the tasteless cake?....an e-mail from him (in response to mine thanking him for the coffee - yes, i'm that kind of girl)..."you are a lovely woman, but i don't think there is any boyfriend/girlfriend potential".....!
i actually laughed out loud...i mean, it was funny... and i wondered where he got the idea that's what i wanted, then realized it was nothing i'd said or done; it was just a part of his arrogance/pomposity to assume it.
anyhow, lessons learned? pay more attention to my first instincts.....and re-appraise my inclination to be polite after a boring date....
lush
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
odd things that make me smile...
well, it's by far not the oddest site i've seen, but the title did strike me as rather incongruous (i do enjoy incongruity at times...). i like the juxstaposition of the naughty and nice....this ain't your granny's knitting....(or maybe it is, and there were a few things about your granny you didn't know...) anyhow, check it out... http://www.knittedporn.blogspot.com/
lush
ach! i just finished an interview for a new job..."holy stress batman!" is all i can say.
yes, i'm changing jobs...well, more like going into another area of my profession, one that will allow me a little more flexibility than my current position (it has been time for me to move on for over a year, but it is only now that i'm doing what needs to be done).
but, back to the interview. i haaaaate interviews, not that i imagine anyone really enjoys being grilled, however tenderly it may be done (well, some might, but that's another post completely...). it has been 11 years since the last one and i think i'm out of practice. i talked ad naseum, but realized that i wasn't really saying what i wanted to say. "talk alot - say nothing"...hmmm, kind of like many politicians i suppose. now, false modesty aside (oh hell, who am i trying to fool? i have no false modesty) i am good at my job, and would be fabulous at the one i'm applying for. but i have noooo idea of whether that came across in the interview. did i impress, or did i not? did the interview panel (of 4 people) see just how fabulous i am, or did i come across as "a lot of talk, little substance" (like a few dates i've had....)? and now i'm left hangin'....for three weeks, at which time the powers that be will deign to let me know their decisions.....
ah, either way, i'm fine. i'll still be changing jobs, but will be going to plan "b"..... not so much a fan of plan "b" though, 'cause you know it's going to involve another damn interview.....!
wish me luck!
lush
yes, i'm changing jobs...well, more like going into another area of my profession, one that will allow me a little more flexibility than my current position (it has been time for me to move on for over a year, but it is only now that i'm doing what needs to be done).
but, back to the interview. i haaaaate interviews, not that i imagine anyone really enjoys being grilled, however tenderly it may be done (well, some might, but that's another post completely...). it has been 11 years since the last one and i think i'm out of practice. i talked ad naseum, but realized that i wasn't really saying what i wanted to say. "talk alot - say nothing"...hmmm, kind of like many politicians i suppose. now, false modesty aside (oh hell, who am i trying to fool? i have no false modesty) i am good at my job, and would be fabulous at the one i'm applying for. but i have noooo idea of whether that came across in the interview. did i impress, or did i not? did the interview panel (of 4 people) see just how fabulous i am, or did i come across as "a lot of talk, little substance" (like a few dates i've had....)? and now i'm left hangin'....for three weeks, at which time the powers that be will deign to let me know their decisions.....
ah, either way, i'm fine. i'll still be changing jobs, but will be going to plan "b"..... not so much a fan of plan "b" though, 'cause you know it's going to involve another damn interview.....!
wish me luck!
lush
Thursday, February 19, 2009
Tuesday, February 17, 2009
Tart and the adventures of online dating
- LesBiGay
- OkCupid
- PlentyofFish
which one?
One?
why one?
I've been the one avoiding dating. Making dates, cancelling dates. Angering the very small pool of gay women in town by doing so and now have decided that its almost Spring and its time to DATE. so I am on ...
All ... yes, all of them!
Tart is on alll THREE websites.
girls girls girls.
Everywhere!
~Tart
Sunday, February 15, 2009
is it done yet...?
well, the dreaded day is over...thankfully! i'm an anti-valentines day kinda girl. even when i'm in a committed relationship, i prefer to not commemorate february 14th with anything that resembles love or romance (sex maybe, but that goes for any day of the year...). why choose one day of the year to tell someone that you love him or her? i prefer to share my love every day of the year, and i would prefer to receive tokens of appreciation because my love or lover feels moved let me know that he or she cares, not because he or she is supposed give one on this specific day.
i'm thinking that i would like to begin a fun tradition that honours my anti-valentine sentiment. any suggestions?
lush
play time...
so, given the intensity of the last few weeks, i'm seriously in need of some fun, so this weekend it's play time. i'll be spending an evening with a sweet kinky boy "MC" who loves to explore soooo many apsects of the sexual experience. he is so yummy! and, of course i'll be seeing "EG" (of an earlier post) ..... mmmm! oh yes, and then there's coffee with a new, hopefully interesting, fella. will let you know how that goes. well, i'll probably let you know how it all goes.... ;)and last, but in no way least, tart and i will get a chance to sit and chat, which we are so rarely able to do these days. maybe i can convince her to go "toy" shopping with me.... :)
kisses...
lush
sweet sound of silence...
oh, where to begin...
i am feeling rather fatigued right now, but it is the kind of fatigue that a little time and quiet will ease. i've just spent a few days with family, and while i love them all, the combination of boisterous children, too little space, and the drama of unresolved conflicts and grief has taken its emotional and physical toll. but enough said about that...i have learned (and now been reminded) that, family or not, i need not live their lives, and choose to not become enmeshed in thier issues....
so, on with my life....
lush
i am feeling rather fatigued right now, but it is the kind of fatigue that a little time and quiet will ease. i've just spent a few days with family, and while i love them all, the combination of boisterous children, too little space, and the drama of unresolved conflicts and grief has taken its emotional and physical toll. but enough said about that...i have learned (and now been reminded) that, family or not, i need not live their lives, and choose to not become enmeshed in thier issues....
so, on with my life....
lush
Friday, February 13, 2009
what's a girl to do?
What's a girl to do when she's rather rent a movie (by herself) on Valentine's Day than make the effort to get out there and find a date!
Help! I think my libido needs a jumpstart!
Any ideas?
~Tart
Help! I think my libido needs a jumpstart!
Any ideas?
~Tart
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
Rant
If you are NOT about to hit the car in front of you then please, please, please refrain from honking. Hate it. Want to make it illegal.
~Tart
~Tart
kudos for sex positive...
i found what looks like an amazing sex-positive organization in vancouver - libido events - i'm thinking an orientation and membership is in order...will keep you posted...
lush
lush
Monday, February 9, 2009
Tart has a crush ...
... on a neighbour
For a year now.
Everytime I see her I am in my gumboots, pajama bottoms and fourteen layers walking the dog. Usually with a toque covering the bad hair and yesterday's makeup.
Tonight I was having a little looksy on the lesbian dating site tonight and lo and behold ... ready for it ... READY?There.SHE.was! She iiiiiiiiiiiiissss Gay, gay, gay!
Damn Damn Damn ... Why did I not just walk outside and walk the dog looking like the hottie I really am? Ok maybe not hottie but defnitely not the baglady I've been portraying. ... Well, Tart took a chance and emailed her. Wish me luck.
Do not check your email. Do not check your email. Do not check your email. GGAHHhh !!!! I gotta go check my email!
~Tart
is it love, or lust, or...?
i'm ...well, not really love...more like lust, or at least an intense level of "i really, really want!". ever feel that kind of wanting? just for the record, i have had him (in the carnal sense). now i just want him in every other sense ... and therein lies my problem. i want like a a six year old wants, immediately and intensely. yes, i know i'm supposed to be all grown-up and stuff, but really, this one is rather special, and worth wanting like that. what makes thim that special? i'm so glad you asked! he is amazingly intelligent, and not just in an academic way (he does have those creds too though); he's also creative, unique, kinky, talented, and mmmm, can this man kiss!
but I digress...what was i talking about...? just thinking about his kisses does that to me....oh yes, he also seems to think i'm pretty special (and yes folks, i'm that easy).....the problem i have is that i want him to fall in love with me. hell, just so you know, i want everyone to fall in love with me, but especially him.
he asked me once what i want from life, and i told him that "i want to be surrounded by people i care about, and to be doing something that has meaning in my life. i want to live my life with passion and I want loves and lovers". not much to ask for is it?
And i want him to be one of those people, one of my loves (and yes, only one....but i'll save that discussion for another day...). so what do i do? i take a deep breath and tell the six year old that if it is meant to be, it will be, and if it does not work out, i will have had an amazing experience, and i'll move on to other adventures....but just in case it might help, keep your fingers cross for me okay?
lush
but I digress...what was i talking about...? just thinking about his kisses does that to me....oh yes, he also seems to think i'm pretty special (and yes folks, i'm that easy).....the problem i have is that i want him to fall in love with me. hell, just so you know, i want everyone to fall in love with me, but especially him.
he asked me once what i want from life, and i told him that "i want to be surrounded by people i care about, and to be doing something that has meaning in my life. i want to live my life with passion and I want loves and lovers". not much to ask for is it?
And i want him to be one of those people, one of my loves (and yes, only one....but i'll save that discussion for another day...). so what do i do? i take a deep breath and tell the six year old that if it is meant to be, it will be, and if it does not work out, i will have had an amazing experience, and i'll move on to other adventures....but just in case it might help, keep your fingers cross for me okay?
lush
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Hello there.
I'm Tart. Sweet, sour. Nice, not nice. Some things, all things, everything.
Remember this song:
Keep posted. Lots of secrets, posts, questions, answers, polls and juicy topics coming to the Adventures of T and L soon!
Love,
~Tart
I'm Tart. Sweet, sour. Nice, not nice. Some things, all things, everything.
Remember this song:
Keep posted. Lots of secrets, posts, questions, answers, polls and juicy topics coming to the Adventures of T and L soon!
Love,
~Tart
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