it was an afternoon coffee date... a "get to know each other over a cuppa something". now, he wasn't immediately the kind of guy i'm attracted to. he was older, straight, and seemed rather vanilla, but he did come across in initial e-mails as very intelligent (i'm a sucker for that) and talented in his field. given that he was quite travelled and seemed a complex, interesting person, i thought i'd give it a try...
well , to sum up...in a response to a question i asked, he replied, "i'll keep my answer brief as it's dull for a person to drone on and on about himself".....and then for the next three hours, proceeded to tell me about his life, his work, his past, his family, his hopes, his aversion to vancouver (devoid of culture in his view) .... (notice a pattern?)...and to be completley truthful, he has had an interesting life, but it was all about him. and since i refuse to fight for conversation space, i let him drone on and on.... coming to understand his particular brand of pomposity.....(mixed with a tendency to do tasteless imitations of people's accents - a big yuck in my opinion).
definitely no sparks to be had (he invited me back to his place, and i declined, obviously).
the icing on the tasteless cake?....an e-mail from him (in response to mine thanking him for the coffee - yes, i'm that kind of girl)..."you are a lovely woman, but i don't think there is any boyfriend/girlfriend potential".....!
i actually laughed out loud...i mean, it was funny... and i wondered where he got the idea that's what i wanted, then realized it was nothing i'd said or done; it was just a part of his arrogance/pomposity to assume it.
anyhow, lessons learned? pay more attention to my first instincts.....and re-appraise my inclination to be polite after a boring date....
lush
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